New Year Resolutions, Goals or Whatever-You-Want-to-Call-Them

We’re already 7 weeks into 2021 and I believe it’s not never too late to wish you a Happy New Year! I hope it’s started on a good note for you whether you made a list of goals or not.

New Year resolutions have been a part of me for as long as I can remember. I consistently had one habit (nail-biting to be specific) I was trying to kick, or something that I aimed to do/learn come 31st December of that year. As I grew older, I realized how quickly I forgot those resolutions or couldn’t live up to my own words and decided I was completely over writing resolutions. Fast forward 2016, I came back to the drawing board with more realistic ways of approaching these goals, using the SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time-based) method.

A list of some of my goals between 2016 and 2020

Apply and get into graduate school

Write one blog post monthly

Get a graduate degree

Take my spiritual walk with God more seriously

Write the GRE Exam

Find specific time blocks for social media use on weekdays

Have a more business-centered approach for the side-hustles

Gain 60kgs 

Stop drinking Coca-Cola

Take swimming lessons 

I’ll leave you to guess which ones I’ve achieved and the ones I chucked into the trash can. 

In 2017, 2018 and 2019, I made a list of goals I wanted to achieve, some needed Crazy Faith, others hard work and of course God’s grace. Anything I couldn’t achieve in a particular year, I rolled over into the following year. The fact that I couldn’t reach those goals didn’t mean I had failed. There were still many opportunities to get round to achieving them. 2020 was a different ball game all together. I had about 2 goals to attain and everything else went into the Prayer request bucket because, they were things mostly out of my control no matter what part I played.

Guess what? Aside those two goals, it appeared like God used a red pen like teachers used to in primary school, and crossed out the other 8 goals/aspirations, with a big NO in the margins. I felt every negative emotion I could think of, but He was the master architect of my life so I chose to trust His rather painful process.

This year, I took a different approach to my goals, listing monthly goals and working towards them. Apart from not completing “The Subtle art of not Giving a F*ck, and this particular blog post, I confidently checked off every single thing for January. Yay for wins!!! Will I achieve my Feb goals? Maybe, maybe not. I am done being too hard on myself in life and frequently remind myself to tiptoe if I must.

What about you? How have you managed your goals, aspirations and did you have any crazy ones on your list?

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